How to Create a Divorce Position Statement
Before You Hire Another Expert, Do This One Thing to Anchor Your Divorce Strategy
When you’re heading into a divorce, the instinct is to lawyer up, gather financial documents, and lean on professionals to lead the way. But there’s one crucial step most people skip—one that can make or break your entire strategy: creating your divorce position statement.
This simple but powerful document lays the groundwork for your settlement offer, organizes your facts, and positions you as the lead negotiator in your case.
What Is a Divorce Position Statement?
A divorce position statement is a 1–2 page summary that clearly outlines your timeline, top legal or financial issues, and proposed settlement terms. It’s a calm, factual narrative that helps your mediator, lawyer, and even the judge understand your story-without drama, confusion, or legal jargon.
It sets the tone for everything that follows.
Why You Should Write It Yourself
You might assume your lawyer will draft this. But here’s the truth: no one knows your story better than you do. By writing your own position statement, you take back control of your narrative, avoid costly misunderstandings, and help your team work faster and smarter.
It shows you’re prepared—and positions you as the voice of reason.
What to Include in Your Divorce Position Statement
You don’t need to be a legal expert. You just need to be organized and intentional. Here’s a basic outline to follow:
Intro + Background: When did you meet? Marry? Separate?
Top 3 Issues: Usually parenting, property, and money.
Factual Timeline: Key dates, milestones, and turning points.
Summary of Your Offer: What do you want? What are you willing to compromise on?
Exhibit Index (Optional): A list of documents you have or will create (e.g., bank statements, texts, gift records).
Keep it concise. Think: the highlights you’d want a mediator or judge to remember.
How to Start-Even If You Feel Overwhelmed
Start with what you know: your story.
Record a voice memo detailing everything—from how you met to why things changed. Talk about money, kids, decisions, and dynamics. Then, use a tool like ChatGPT to turn that voice memo into a draft. Prompt it to summarize the major legal and financial issues and organize the timeline.
Even if your final document changes over time, you’ll be miles ahead of most people—calmer, clearer, and ready to negotiate from a place of power.
This One Document Can Save You Time, Money, and Emotional Energy
A well-written divorce position statement keeps your entire team aligned. It reduces repetitive conversations and keeps the focus on strategy, not storytelling. Most importantly, it gives you confidence. Because when you're leading the negotiation, clarity is your most powerful asset.
Next Steps:
Want guidance and templates to help you write your position statement? Join our LIVE Circle in The Divorce Allies membership or start by dictating your story into your phone this weekend.
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